Relationship Difficulties
Ultimately, relationship difficulties are about our relationship with ourselves first.
As we understand how we are personally, we develop a better relationship with ourselves. When this happens, we like ourselves more, and we find it easier to like others. Others, in turn, find it easier to like us – which is what we all want.
Ideally, you should go to couples counselling together. It’s hard to build a team if only half the players are there. If one person makes the decision to give couples counselling a try, the partner may decide to go too.
If your partner flatly refuses to join you, there are lots of things couples counselling can help you sort out on your own. There may be changes you can make that will have a positive impact on your relationship. Some people also prefer to have counselling on their own first, to work out their own feelings, before seeing another counsellor as a couple.
Counselling typically covers the following core areas:
Exploring your story – the nature of the problems and what impact they’re having on you and your relationship. The history of how the problems arose and what changes you’d like to see.
Understanding your story – why you’re struggling with these problems and the things that may be preventing you from overcoming them.
Rewriting your story – finding the strengths and resources to resolve your difficulties, or at least make them more bearable.
