Marriage and Relationship Counselling
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it”
— Rumi
Marriage and Relationship counselling is provided for couples (and individuals) who are experiencing challenges in their relationship.
Some of the those challenges may be as follows:
Infidelity and affairs
Loss of a child
Living with chronic illness
Individual loss of desire
Adjusting to the birth of a new baby
Conflicted style of interacting
Problems with emotional intimacy
Starting a family
Fertility issues
Difficulties with communication
The above problems can often lead to increased distress for an individual/individuals, and sometimes to escalating conflict. The process of couples’ therapy helps to change the interactional patterns through the experience of providing a safe confidential place, where a couple can learn how to talk, listen respectfully, and be heard by one another. Our basic adult needs for safety, security and closeness in our intimate relationships is foundational to the way we work with couples in Relationship Matters. Our role is to support the couple to find their way back to each other. Our couples’ therapists are aware of the need to hear both points of view and will not choose sides. We aim to provide a safe and effective path for long term relational healing.
The initial 50min session(s) is an assessment where you can talk about the problems you are experiencing, and the counsellor can think about how they may help you. If ongoing therapy is required there is an agreement put in place about when to meet (it will usually be on a weekly basis, initially), and whether to see the couple as individuals for a session or two each, and then resume the conjoint work on the couple’s relationship. The couple’s relationship is always held at the forefront and is the focus of these sessions.
We aim to provide a flexible service. Anyone concerned about their relationship may attend, whether they are married or living together, separated or single, heterosexual or in a same-sex relationship. All are welcome.
